From Pain to Beauty: Lessons from a Make-up Artist

Growing up I was often reminded that I wasn’t the idea of smart and/or beautiful. I was criticized and compared constantly about my appearance. I cried a lot and blamed God.

Still trying to see through the tears to have a good childhood. Playing dress-up with my cousins, styling our hairs, applying our mother’s makeup, just playing and having fun was my escape. I had no intention to make playing “dressing up” as a dream or career. 

I was raised in a way to know that there are special people in the world but you are NOT one of them! This is something I cried about all throughout my life. 

Self hate, criticism and negative thoughts were things I nourished. Reliving those bullying statements “you’re ugly and stupid” made it so difficult to trust and believe in others and myself, especially in good moments of genuine acceptance.

However, there came a breaking point.

I lived through my awkward teenage years, coming into a young adult I was on a mission to “look beautiful”. 

Even though I was full of internal pain and suffering, I was determined to “fix” this part of me and prove to my bullies I can be beautiful! 

I began my research on beauty, which led me to makeover shows, makeup and hairstyling. This encouraged me to pursue makeup artistry and cosmetology. 

A true passion emerged.

Still unsure if this could be a career, self doubt fluttering in an out, with a leap of faith I began posting my work on social media with no expectations, luckily business took off. 

Clients always use my business name as a fun and sweet conversation starter which I love very much, but not knowing it came from sad pray to god. “please god, can you make me beautiful”. Make Me Beautiful was born. 

After 13 years in this business I can say I’ve learnt a lot and still learning both personal and professional. But with my struggles, misfortunes, failure and success I am very grateful for all my experiences. I’m a strong believer in growth with whatever field or life choices. I want to help manifest more inner beauty and self love.

Society has made makeup artistry into a negative reflection of someone’s self-esteem.

But I chose not to listen to those voices anymore. Makeup is a form of art, I know I’m enhancing someone’s beautiful canvas, I’m not changing, covering up or fixing who they are. I chose to believe I’m bringing out their best selves within, outward. 

I now have a different perspective about my past.

Instead of enduring and reliving my pain, I see it as lessons that pushed me into the right direction. I’ve notice that when I stop playing a victim and  face the darkness, I can fully let go to live a mentally happier life and I’m proud of whom I’ve become. 

So instead on tossing around the negativity, bullying and pain like dirt, I collectively use them all to mould a beautiful life and career. 

I would encourage you all to embrace your talents, skills and dreams. Learn from negativity, face your fears head on. Keep moving forward.

You are worthy, beautiful and loved.

Written by: Vandana Ramnath 

Makeup Artist & Hairstylist 

Founder of Make Me Beautiful by Vandana Ramnath

Follow her on Instagram @makemebeautifulvr if you’d like to learn more about her work and her journey

A Step by Step Process to Discover Your True Purpose

For as long as I can remember I’ve had a background sense of uneasiness in my life.

It’s an unnamable frustration that came from knowing I wasn’t doing all I could with my life. 

Regardless of changes I’ve made in my career, friends, relationship and even location there was always this infuriating restlessness that told me I had more to do with my life… more to be.

If you’ve ever felt like this, you’re not alone.

More people than ever are searching for meaning and purpose in their lives. 

So much so that it’s actually being researched. 

One of the findings of the research  (link here) shows that a lack of purpose can be detrimental to our health. And people who report having a sense of purpose in life are shown to have lower risks of mortality and heart disease.

A sense of purpose is clearly very important to living a good life.

It makes sense that so many of us are searching for it.

If you’re someone like me who’s still full of questions about your purpose in life I may have something that can help.

It’s a framework I happened upon during one of my many internet adventures. It helped me find some answers to the frustration and uncertainty in my life.

It’s a Japanese concept called Ikigai.

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Ikigai roughly translates into “reason for being.

When I went through this process for myself, I realized that it provided the perfect blend of our spiritual longings with the practical realties of the world. 

It was through this framework that I realized my purpose. My reason for being is to use my talents and strengths to serve the expression of feminine power.  

My Ikigai is to provide tools, insights and resources for women to grow and thrive. It’s rooted in my belief that the insights, experiences and talents of women and girls are essential to creating a thriving future. 

If you’d like more help to get clarity on your purpose (including prompts and examples) then download your free guide below.

But it’s important to acknowledge  that this isn’t some quick and easy solution to all our problems. It requires time and introspection.

You don’t have to force yourself to answer all the questions now. Just having an awareness of the right questions can help us to be open to insights and ideas that would probably otherwise not come into our life. 

My Ikigai, my purpose, has become the north star of my life guiding me through the ups and downs of every day life. 

It doesn’t guarantee a perfect life (nothing does). But, it does help orient us towards creating a life in alignment with our reason for being. 

Four Steps to Your True Purpose

Download this FREE guide to find your purpose and start creating a life you’ll love.