One of the most frequent questions I get asked is “How can you have a healthy relationship after trauma.”
The most important thing I did
Was to free myself
Of the unrealistic expectation
That I had to be completely healed
To be worthy of lasting love.
Our relationships have the potential to be
Conduits for our healing
Vessels for our growth
Hospitals for our heart.
If we let them,
Our relationships will allow us to see
Where we’re still wounded
While celebrating our growth and our healing.
But we have to be honest
With ourselves and our partners
About where we are in our healing journey
And what we need.
Because only then will our relationships be
Less about two incomplete people
Searching in vain for completion in each other.
And more about
Two complete, authentic,
Beautifully messy individuals
Learning, healing and
Rising in love together.